On my nonbinary gender

Rather than consider gender a spectrum, society identifies and isolates those most affected by the gender limits. Create a bell curve of genders, and anything beyond this many standards from the norm is forbidden.

But to what end? What does it serve? We know: It benefits the sex of the power class to have a system of inferior sexes. The power class gains unearned advantages and accumulated opportunities. Of course.

In the tiered hierarchies, men benefit over women, then over binary transsexuals in passing and then in not passing, far over visibly nonbinary people and third genders, overarching the intersections of gender transgression and power dynamics of disability, and race, and poverty, and heterosexuality, and origin or religion or education level or language. Yes.

But– The smaller the box of acceptable gender expression, the greater the benefit to those who perform that power locus in the gender galaxy.

Outside of my own self, I wonder: How fully is manness even separable from the performative power identity? Have we ever seen it? How many nonbinary individuals in the gender spectrum looked at what manness was in their society and could not identify with it; but had it existed harmoniously with other genders, it would have been a natural home?

A surge of young people identify nonbinary. Do we look at our social paradigms and say, “No, I am not this. I am something else you don’t have words for here,” because of the poverty of gender in two tightly constructed roles?

We are reared to gender, but we embrace it, modify it, reject it, and reinvent it. Should men reject the toxicity of patriarchy, what would be left of manness? We transgender people might be there in the ashes to teach what all can coexist with male identity. But it would take a wholesale rejection of all unearned benefits over other genders, and I fear giving up power over this megalith of women and the whole host of the rest of us is too ripe a temptation for most men.

(I write this as a neutrois third-gender person, commonly perceived as trans masculine, accessing so-called FTM medicine, mostly passing male, experiencing myself very differently from perceptions.)

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